Forgiveness and Money
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different, it’s accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.”― Oprah Winfrey
I was recently in Los Angeles at Brave Heart Women’s annual RISE conference. Ellie Drake mentioned this quote from Oprah, and I immediately resonated with it and knew that I had to write to you about it.
I have found that the hardest part to healing our relationship with money is admitting that we need to. There is so much shame, guilt and embarrassment associated with money, whether we are in debt, have no plan, have no savings, or simply don’t have a clue about where to start.
I know, I’ve been there and it is very emotional. When people come to me, it is usually with much trepidation. Why? Because we beat ourselves up for allowing our situation to get so desperate. We can blame our parents, divorce, kids, loss of job and a myriad of other reasons. The truth? We don’t want to really admit that we don’t know and we keep hoping that somehow magically it will change.
Money is a subject that is taboo; like sex, religion and politics! Yet whether we like it or not, our relationship with money is important to our basic survival needs. If you do not have a great relationship with your money and you are frustrated, then the first step in mending it; forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself for all the stupid decisions that you may have made. Forgive yourself for not knowing how. You are where you are based on what you know. So what, the past doesn’t equal the future and when you know better you’ll do better.
The thing is that most of us were not taught about money, we did not get a money manual when we were kids or as young adults starting out. We were not taught ‘How’ to do money; Cashflow, debt, credit, saving, retirement planning, and goal setting.
You can change, I did and I have helped so many others change their relationship with money to one of empowerment and control. Control of what you want to do, with who and when. Is it easy? Maybe for some, it really is a step by step process of forgiveness, knowledge and then action.
If I can do it, you can too! It is never too late to start. After all, that’s just another excuse of your past that you hold on to that keeps you immobilized where you are. Want to have a conversation? I promise that there will be no judgements from me. I already have the t-shirt!
If you are ready to let go of the past and move forward then click here. I promise you that taking this first step of even contacting me (with no obligation) will start the healing process of your relationship (or lack of) with money. We were not meant to just survive…we were meant to thrive!
I believe in you, until you believe in you…. Look forward to talking to you.
With much love,